This isn’t the first blog that I’ve done about sleep and it seems that it won’t be the last.
I’ve seen a few articles recently thanks to a lovely DS mummy. Articles that claim that they have the Magic answer to your child’s sleep problems, for example:
Sleep practitioners who claim that for the princely sum of £300 that they can fix your child’s sleep issues and it’ll all be perfect and Mary Poppins will suddenly breeze into your life on her magic umbrella and as quick as you can sing “supercalifragilisticexpialidocious” the sleep problems will be fixed.
Yeah yeah whatever!
These articles, these specialists, make my eyes roll so far in the back of my head, that I’m amazed that I can click delete the link.
Now I know some people do have children who have sleep issues which is directly related to behaviour and poor routine. To be frank for most parents, if you take time to get a routine after a bit of quick research, you can sort the sleep thing. Or at least improve it.
For some kids though, there isn’t a magic wand, there’s no quick fix. And that’s ok.
These articles irritate me. When you’re a parent desperately searching for help, these articles can make you feel like a pretty shoddy parent. For these parents it’s not their fault, there isn’t a quick fix and they need to know that they aren’t alone in their struggles. Sleep deprivation is the absolute pits. It makes everything harder.
I’ve blogged about Evie’s sleep issues here before – https://itsallaboutevie.com/2015/04/14/let-me-tell-you-a-story/
The current situation for Evie is that she has had a more recent sleep study. Well…we tried to have a sleep study. It failed. If you fancy a giggle look at the posts from our aborted attempt…there’s always humour in every situation 😂🙈
I’ve been ignored when I’ve requested advice from specialists so many times that now we just give up and take what comes our way. In fact I find the whole situation ludicrous. Consultants don’t know what else to do which is fine, at least they admit it. They don’t try to minimise, they listen and do what they can.
We’re having a bit of a reprieve lately which we’re enjoying. Since Evie’s had glandular fever she does seem more tired and the horrific nights aren’t as frequent, although still occur far too often for my and my lack of sleep’s liking. She still wakes…maybe we’re just used to it. Or perhaps after so many years we know that this is just how our beaut is…and
I am counting down the days until I have to drag her out of bed as a teenager!
For anyone suffering sleep deprivation you aren’t alone. Try everything, all of the suggestions, because they just may work.
There are so many ideas, bedtimes routine, night lights, no lights, blackout blinds, medication, essential oils, massage, lavender sprays, music…try them.
But if they don’t work, don’t feel bad about it. It’s not your fault.
You know there’s no such thing as a perfect sleep routine. There’s no ‘normality’. After all “normal is just a setting on a dryer honey”.